Welcome to the Grumpy Pregnancy Club
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See the picture above of the positively radiant, super cute, and healthy pregnant gal? Yah, that’s not me.
I was not a perky pregnant person. I was known as the “swollen one” in my Lamaze class. The acid that percolated in my throat was only just a little more comfortable than the heart palpitations beating their off tempo beat or the constant queasy tummy (which forced me to eat nonstop resulting in a 65 lb weight gain). I was also my OB’s worst nightmare. I’d arrive to my appointments with my stack of post its and he spent hours calming me down from all from all the neurotic conditions I’d diagnosed myself with. I felt SO lucky to be pregnant (after a loooong time trying), but I also felt and looked like CRAP.
So I thought it would be helpful to offer to my fellow GPP’s (Grumpy Pregnant People) some resources to help you know you aren’t alone and there are lots of ways you can feel better!
Need to vent? Commiserate with other pregnant moms who tell it like it is.
Feel like crap? Consult our symptoms and conditions guide to get help with every symptom/condition you can think of (and some you haven’t).
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THANK YOU! I was not a happy camper for my 1st pregnancy three years ago and I am in my 1st trimester of my 2nd pregnancy and I feel worse with this one. I love my daughter and I can’t wait to have this 2nd baby. I have several friends though who spout how wonderful, beautiful and natural pregnancy is and I just want to smack them. Pregnancy is 9 months filled with vomit and pain for me. Here’s to the Grumpy Preggo’s.
Welcome to the club Meg – while I wish your pregnancies were easier, it’s nice to know us grumpies aren’t alone! I think it was a little easier for me to take the second time, only because I truly got how important and worth it it was. I was also resentful that I had trouble conceiving and then didn’t even get to enjoy it! Hopefully things ease up for you in 2nd trimester this time….but even if they do you can always be in our club.
My family says im horrible when im pregnant. I hate to be touched and they have to constantly watch what they say. Im pregnant with baby number 2 and my daughter is 9 months and being only 8 Weeks I can say this pregnancy is defiantly worse than when I was pregnant with my daughter. Yay for grumpy preggos.
Wow Ashley that is a lot of pregnant time over the last couple of years. Your family will just have to deal, sometimes it’s all we can do to survive from one day to the next. Can’t always hide our frustrations!
When I read the headline for this article I just had to read the rest and comment even though my child is now 2 years old. I was VERY grumpy when I was pregnant. I didn’t want anyone touching or giving me any kind of attention in regards to being pregnant. Don’t get me wrong, this was a planned pregnancy and I was very happy to have a baby on the way, but I did not want the attention. I was constantly sick and irritated with everyone, everything and always felt uncomfortable. My co-workers would laugh at me because of how I felt, they would tell me that being pregnant is supossed to be happy and a beautiful thing. I kept saying, you get pregnant and tell me if you think it’s all fun and happy moments lol. Every person experiences pregnancy different and experience different emotions…mine were grumpy ones!! haha.
Omg, I felt the same way. I don’t want to be touched, bothered or spoken to. The motto during my pregnancy is ” I’m pregnant, I know it, now leave me alone.” Every body wants to help but it just gets to be too much. My mother always said” if you don’t stop being so mean your baby is going to be mean”, well that was a lie. She is the happiest baby ever. This time around I am alot more grumpier So I decided maybe some pampering sessions might work. SO I got my first Mary Kay facials and loved it so now I do Mary Kay mini-facials and make overs. And it has HELPED but other times I’m thinking maybe a massage would be better : ) marykay.com/swilsonn11
A little pampering DOES go a long way – I just never had the energy to make it happen. Love that you have a sweet baby to prove mom wrong! (I was grumpy AND had a grumpy baby so I thought I was in for it!)
I totally belong to this club. I am prego with my second child. My last pregnancy was hard and so is this one. I feel like I go from one aliment to the next. I fly off the handle at my husband almost daily. It can be anything from being in my way, to touching me, to not rinsing the milk carton out. And my poor son after a long day at work, and being exhausted. By the end of the night I have no time for him and I have short patience. I am so ready for it to be over. For me it didn’t end after birth, because breastfeeding is a long hard couple of months to get use to. Its like having to take a year off your life just to have a kid. Then I got the joyous lecture told after I had my first baby that I was a mean pregnant person. That really got under my skin. First off who does anyone think they are having the right to tell you that your mean when you just went through hell for almost a year. I love how other women conveniently forget how awful pregnancy can be. Or they got to have happy 9 months that didn’t effect them at all. Other things that need to factor in that people need to remember is, that most women work and that alone takes a toll on our bodies while prego. Not to mention if its your second baby you get to do it all while chasing a toddler around. I diffidently recommend making time for your self. Just taking an extra long lunch break to get a pedicure and a hair cut totally can change your mood. I did that the other day and I went from yelling at everyone, to being calm and almost happy.
“Taking an extra long lunch break to get a pedicure and hair cut totally can change your mood” — that is great advice! I feel like all my emotions are heightened being a mom now, for good and bad. When I get time on my own and I can feel relaxed (and even miss my kids at home a little), it makes all the difference.
So glad to have found this blog! Trying to conceal this pregnancy from my coworkers for as long as possible all while I am completely nauseous and growing faster than the speed of light. Just found out my belly is full of twins! Am I supposed to be showing at nine weeks? Seriously, they are GRAPE size. Grumpy!
Lori, twin grapes!! Congrats (but OMG)! I remember slouching at desk and my boss at the time would pass me and I just knew that she knew. I feel like as soon as I tested positive I immediately busted out of my pants like the next day. One day at time, grumpy sister!
I vomit everything! Its so damn annoying! I was 125 before i got pregnant and now im 120! I dont want to lose anymore weight and eating is so hard. I feel hungry all the time but when i do eat i feel upset, throw up or my mouth tastes bitter…..nothing tastes good! Hope i get over this nausea soon.
So sorry you are so sick and losing weight Onyx. It is exhausting and frustrating to feel so badly all the time. For me I could stomach animal crackers – I lived on those things during the first trimester. I’m not sure how far along you are but do hope it eases off for you soon!
My days consis of me babysitting a 6month old and 6year little girls, including my little 3 year old. I have no time to relax until they go home around 6:30. Then it’s time for dinner then bath time for my son. I am so sleepy and so grumpy, plus my husband doesnt make it any easer with his constant talk about his car, and the things he just has to get for it! I had all the time to relax when I was pregnant with my son because I had no other kids to watch, and the only reason I am watching them is because my brother asked my to. I would love it if my husband would just help with the bath and getting him to bed, but he keeps saying no I have to work in the morning. It’s really hard not to smuther him with a pillow at night lol.
Ummm….you should just remind your hubby that the knives are in the kitchen!! Maybe HE should cook dinner for a change. JUST SAYING!!
Ladies thank you and thank you again! I have been so tired of playing the happy, belly rubbing mommy to be. Its my first time around and thank goodness it has been a fairly easy pregnancy, considering. However I have turned into a monster the last few weeks. Less and less sleep, with my pelvis shifting around it feels like I get kicked in the lady parts every time I move, never ending heartburn and headaches, working 6 days a week with a husband who is man nesting doing outrageous house maintenance (redoing sprinkler lines and putting in ceiling fans) but not helping with any household chores or nursery prep because he is “too tired”. Try growing a person! No kidding I’m not the glowing dreamy preggo lady but grumpy one instead. Grumps unite!
THANK YOU SHELLEY! You just made me LOL! TRY GROWING A PERSON is right! And they think they have it bad! SHEESH!
Physically I’ve felt amazing, but at week 20, I’m finding that I’m just not all that nice to a lot of people. I do try to be patient, but it seems that my tolerance for others right now is non-existant.
Pregnancy takes PMS to a-whole-nother level. I find myself sweet and nice to strangers but angry and bitter to my loved ones. This is only my frist pregnancy, so I wasn;t sure if I could attribute it to that….but glad to hear that there are othe rwomen going through the same thing!
I feel your pain! Unfortunately, I am getting to the point where I have to fight to not be hateful and mean even to STRANGERS! I think I may just find a nice rock to crawl under til Gummi gets here LOL
Hey everyone I’m new to the grumpy pregnancy club my name is Tomika and I have my days were I’m grumpy..
I was so calm and happy my first trimester which I think was because it took so long to conceive and had to undergo fertility treatments. That has definitely wore off. I am 12 weeks and finding myself back to my moody self, being short with colleagues, and snapping at people very easily. I’ll blame it on the hormones.
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This is my second pregnancy im in my 7th month abd have 10 weeks to go and a 4 yr old son, and i have to say that I’ve been less patient, very aggravated at the smallest things, and not wanting to be bothered at all! Im still currently working and in an urgent care clinic which
make its 2000X’s worse seeing the same ppl everyday with the same excuses, i think just drug seeking!uuuuuuuuuuuuuuuhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh I cant wait till it’s over so i can ge back to the norm!
Thank you so much for your refreshing outtake. I am only 11 wks and my list of pet peeves is growing by the second. I have struggled with a healthy body image for years and I HATE that people seem to think that my body is now community property to touch and make almost downright hurtful comments about. (i.e. “are you growing a baby in your ass too?”, “wow youve gained ten pounds allready, thats alot,”) I seriously want to spend the rest of my pregnancy on a deserted island.
OMG! And you don’t knock them out WHY??! Oh girl! Pregnant women are the most beautiful thing in the world (in my opinion anyway). And who in the HAY touches you without asking?? I would seriously FLIP OUT! I am lucky enough that everyone ASKS before they go for the Buddha Rub with me. Maybe it’s b/c they know how EVIL I am right now LOL And don’t feel to bad about the weight either. I gained over 20 lbs in the first 2 months and that was AFTER gaining 30 following a miscarriage. :/ I wish you luck. Hang in there!! I’m betting you are a beautiful preggo! However, if you insist on the island deal…..I’d love to go with you! I promise not to make booty comments
OMG! I was emotional in the VERY beginning but it stopped! Never had problems with my other 3 pregnancies either. But now??? I am EVIL!!! And as of today…I am Maleficent in tears! WTH?!? I JUST got off the phone with my nurse and told her I CANNOT DO THIS for another week and a half! (I’ve been like this for at least a month now) If I try I won’t have anyone left once Gummi Bear gets here! I’m surprised my honey and kids have not left me thus far! His poor daddy, who I was NEVER mean or hateful too up to this point, slept on the couch the other night just to stay away from me b/c I was so hateful. I hate myself right now! And as of this morning, I cannot stop crying! Just burst into tears for no apparent reason. Which is how my oldest son and fiance figured out I was pregnant to begin with! This is insane! My Bipolar Disorder has been in overdrive for a bit but now it’s like it’s on steroids! What do I do?! I really hate this! I love being pregnant but I hate this emotional junk! I don’t want it! And have never been like this this late in the game. I’m 37w 2d and being induced on Memorial Day. I seriously can’t handle this anymore! There has to be a way to make it stop! RIGHT??!?! *sigh*
Thank you, thank you for this discussion! Im definitely in this club. I’m preggers with son #3 and this one is about to send me over the edge! Nausea, varicose veins, swelling, ligament pain from hell and the worst one of all….major depression and anxiety! Yay me!! I feel so guilty saying it but, I HATE being pregnant! I have come close to smacking a few sweet old women that tell me how great pregnancywas for them. My poor kids and hubby want to run for the hills when they see me waddling their way. August can’t come soon enough. Thanks for the vent fest!
Aah. I’m so happy to find this thread. I’m just out of the first trimester from hell where I lost 6lbs. And I wish people would stop telling me about how fabulous the second trimester is going to be. The throwing up has gone down, but I’m just nauseated all the time. And eating everything in sight so I don’t start throwing up again. I feel puffy, gassy, sleepy, dopey…(new names for the seven dwarfs). And now that I lived on crackers for weeks, I want my potato chips, dammit. Stop telling me to eat healthy and stressing more about what I can eat than I am!
And my husband is man nesting too – revamping the landscaping, going a 100 miles an hour at chores around the house, all the while complaining about how his ‘wife is missing’. I’m like a vampire – I turn into a mean machine in the evenings and hate if he wants to touch or cuddle my belly. But I’m this sweet pliable thig in the mornings when I wake up. Poor guy.
Hey all. I have become the biggest bitch to my loved ones and my fiance (bless him) is the most loving, kind and supportive man on this planet. He tells me it is normal in pregnancy, but honestly, I am going insane with the grumps. I hate feeling so bad and being so mean all the time. “don’t touch me” “you stink” “is there any need??!!!!!” the pissed stares that I give him…. I am horrible and I can feel inside that I want to be nice and gratefull for his loving patience but when I open my mouth, it’s like I hiss at him. I have Fibromyalgia and Endemetriosis too which doesn’t help as I am a grump when tired and in pain. Please oh please tell me this grumpiness will go away…. I don’t want to be this monster for the rest of my life.
Wow …. I am very pleased to know that I am not the only one who just feels like hating the world!!! I am 9 weeks with my first and really not sure if I can deal with these emotions much longer!! My poor finace is also the most loving, kind and supportive man I could ask for! But bless him for dealing with me flipping out about dumb stuff. Plus I never really noticed when others were pregnant but the amount of people who have the nerve to say “your life is over now”! To me that’s just rude!! I don’t feel like life is over — I feel it’s just started! Most women wait their entire life to become a mom! Hang in there ladies because there has to be an end it sight!!!
Well said.
@AmyN I also hated when people would say something like, “only 6 more weeks until you feel better (2nd trimester).” 6 more weeks!? I couldn’t do one more day. (But somehow I did). @NicoleN and @Red – you are soooo my people. Life is far from over! It may never be the same but I think I’ve lived more life in the last 9 years as a mom than I ever did before. (Maybe because I’m AWAKE for so much more of it?!)
Awwww I love this post! I’m 9 weeks, cannot get enough sleep and want to murder my dear partner on a good day. I want to be nice but I have the hissing thing and the death stares, same as Red. How dare he be sweet, energetic and motivated to get things done around the home?!?! All I see is him deliberately making me feel even more lazy than I am right now! Just being near him makes me cringe and grind my teeth! Please tell me that this horrible pregnant woman will soon bloom into a radiant mother ship…..
Hey there! I’m mum to 3 beautiful children ages 3, 6 & 9 and trying for another. For me pregnancy was he’ll on earth. It’s still traumatic all of them to this day. From day one I’m in an awful mood hate my husband poor thing I manage to find fault even when there is none (Shh don’t tell I said that) but I’m sick all the time 50 times a day 20+ at night the heartburn kills I swell like a balloon normally gaining 8+ stone which is so not fair I eat nothing and throw up constantly. (don’t worry if this is you the weight drops off instantly, even breastfeeding I lost 7 of the 8 stone within 4weeks) that’s like a whole other person! What else oh yes I was in agony with SPD my pubic bones separated about 5inch you could feel the gap in the middle could walk at all was bandaged from boobs to knees in one giant tube the type you wear with a sprain. My children say I looked like a caterpillar. My heart stopped my babies heart stopped constantly (I have a heart condition but it wasn’t diagnosed till after my last pregnancy) there was more… What was it… Oh I remember it’s all coming back to me, I also had extreamly high blood pressure which because I couldn’t stay in hospital for 9 months (joys of having children already) I had to go in everyday and sit on a bed for 3 hrs to be monitored. Where I had the strongest brackston hicks that they thought I was in labour from 6months on they were so strong they were registering as full blown contractions on the machine. 3 months like that all day everyday no wonder baby went into disstress I was. I always get induced early which means your body just isn’t ready and it’s a bit forced so they tend to be longer despite walking round constantly all three births took three days I was exhausted. Therewas more lots more but you get the point pregnancy was either looking down at the toilet or the hospital ward. I hated it when people told me to rest I had kids and a house and a disabled sister to look after and I was in hell. One last thing needed 66stitches after my first. 66! All internal high up god knows what happened. This is the sad bit now, I’ve lost 3 trying for number 4, I just want to stop, maybe it’s my bodies way of saying I’ve done enough but hubby really wants to keep trying. It’s hard! The baby at the end makes it all worth while but he doesn’t go through it all and works away from home (not anymore) so never saw just how bad it was. He thinks it’s normal to be in hospital everyday because I was. Anyway as far as grumpy preggies, think I’m queen! And I want a giant big badge that says so. Maybe a t-shirt with a big fat warning sign across the bump! Good luck to you all and speaking from experience it all just melts away when your back home holding your little one. Well nearly!
I have nicknamed myself grumpapotomus. Im 17 weeks and so moody that I barely talk to jy friends anymore ( they annoy me with their non pregnant skinny bodies. ) I will re connect after I have baby lol. My poor husband has been great though. (I just want to punch him in the face sometimes) im so glad im not alone in my grumpiness and that im not a total witch. Hormones suck.
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I am a high energy positive person usually. I’ve turned into this irritable, grumpy, miserable person since I’ve been pregnant. I’m 25 weeks with my first (it’s a girl) and I am 33 years old. I am constantly throwing up, having brutal heart burn, having back and lower leg pain, etc. I am so happy I am not the only one in this situation!
Sorry I should add, I dislike people and hate being pregnant. How on earth do some women glow??!!
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