How Does She Do it All? Well, She Doesn’t
I came across a post by Liz over at Mom-101 about the myth of “doing it all”, and with the demands of all the roles I play: mom, wife, employee, daughter, friend, neighbor, Girl Scout leader, football team mom, I often get the same question as Liz: “How do you do it?” If I’ve ever given the impression that I have things under control, I apologize! There is no one super mom who can handle everything with 100% thoroughness, and anyone who acts like they do (and makes the rest of us feel like crap) has a scary closet somewhere, I promise.
Here’s my liberating list of what I don’t do and what I choose to do instead:
|I DON’T||I DO|
|Clean up the house every day. Or every other day. Or once a week. Just this weekend I panicked when a friend asked to go inside to use the bathroom. “Be careful in there!!!” I yelled.||Snuggle and read to the kids every night.|
|Cook. I take about every kitchen shortcut possible. My favorite cookbook is called Desperation Dinners. Enough said.||Make sure we all eat together and talk about our day.|
|Volunteer in the kids’ school.||Volunteer once at the beginning of the year to get the lay of the class, and I do attend most school performances.|
|Wash my car (or the dog) nearly enough.||Give my dog tons of kisses every day and keep the car’s guts safely serviced.|
|Wash out my humidifier or the inside of my sonic toothbrush until there’s an entire eco system growing.||Brush my teeth every day.|
|Snuggle with my husband.||Tell my husband I miss him and plan a monthly date night to reconnect.|
|Talk to my friends on the phone.||Text them frequently.|
|Attend every doctor’s appointment.||Organize them and let my husband know when he needs to cover one.|
|Offer to host play dates or sleepovers.||Know who my kids are friends with and why they like them.|
|Put away my clean clothes.||Have clean clothes.|
|Work out regularly.||Go for family hikes or take the kids swimming.|
|Watch TV.||Spend 30 minutes a day reading.|
|Wear makeup on most days.||Wash my face.|
|Wrap presents nicely or remember to include gift receipts.||Remember birthdays and put thought into the presents I buy.|
I don’t do it all, but I do a whole lot. And for me, I’m there for what matters most.
What things do you not do to make room for the most important stuff?
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