Am I Crazy for Wanting Two Under Two?
For some women, I only need to say one thing and they’ll think I’m crazy. That thing? I want ‘two under two’ — yes, that is two children, both under the age of two. They’d label me certifiably insane if they knew that I had secretly wanted ‘two under one’! But I did and still do.
My husband and I want to have a large family — at least four kids. Growing up, I envisioned having four children someday, but I didn’t picture was being almost 33 when my first child was born. Before I entered mommyhood, I had thought two or three years would be the perfect gap between children. But now, I don’t have the luxury of waiting. Time is not on my side. If we are to have the large-ish family that I’ve always wanted, I can’t really afford that kind of wait between pregnancies.
So we’re trying again! Yes, this mom of a four-month-old is actively trying to get pregnant again — with the blessing of my doctor. Am I crazy? Quite possibly. But when I dream of my future family, I see several backpacks by the door. I see bunk beds. I see brothers on the same Little League team. I see sisters playing dress up. I see games of tag and hide and seek in the backyard. I see Big Brother reading to Little Sister. I see a once-in-a-lifetime trip to Disney World when the kids are all old enough. I see multiple sets of feet in our bed during thunderstorms.
Am I in for some hard years? Undoubtedly. I’m in for season after season of sleepless nights. I should buy diapers by the truck load. I might as well plan on hosing down the kitchen floor after each meal. And I know my beloved little sedan’s days are numbered. But I also believe that as tough as some moments will be, I also know that I’m in for great times. Fantastic times! There is nothing like hearing a child’s first laugh or seeing him smile at you, helping him learn how to walk and how to read, seeing the world open up before him and teaching him to love others — including his siblings.
While others think I’m crazy for wanting all that, I think I’d be crazy not to want more of this!
How do you balance the number of children you want and the age gap that you’d like between kids?
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You’re not crazy at all! I think for everyone the right time to add to their family is different. I have a bunch of friends who really loved being super close in age to their siblings.
Not crazy at all!! I have three under two!
We were blessed to be pregnant again when our first son was 7 months old. The surprised is when God saw fit to give us twins 
I got pregnant with my second one when our first was 4 months. It was a bit of a shock but now that we have them both it is great they are 13 months apart and are a joy to watch interact with each other. If we do have a third we want to have him or her close too. Good luck !
I don’t think your crazy. I have a 2yr old son a 9 month old daughter and a 3rd due in Feb. It is going to be hard but omg! I have so much fun and I know it’s going to be a lot of work but it’s so exciting!
My little brother is 9 years younger, I always wanted a close in age sibling!
It is as hard yet amazing as you describe. My first two were ten months apart. ( I got pregnant when my first born was 8 weeks old.) I loved having two girls so close in age they could be in the same grade. I went on to have another. I have 3 kids born within four years. Sometimes there is just so much goodness all at one time I wish I could spread it out. I miss a lot because I am so busy. I can look at a picture and not remember the moment. Luckily I do take lots of pictures. It is very hard but very rewarding. Keep trying to live your own dream. You will be thankful you did.
I had two kids 13 months apart and find it the most rewarding experience for all the chaos we experience daily. Granted, it will only be for a couple years!
They are the best of friends, in the same size diapers…. And I didn’t have to go through a jealousy stage with the older one! And afterwe were done, I could focus on getting my body back 100%
Nope, you are not crazy. We tried for three under three and ended up with four under three…..SURPRISE! While our lives are crazy, we wouldn’t change a thing!
I don’t think you’re crazy at all!!!!!! We are actually pregnant with #2 and that will give us 2 under 2 in April! Our first will be 18 months when the 2nd is born!
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I’d say yes and no lol I have a 13mo old and 13 weeks pregnant with baby #2. My brother and I are 5 years apart and have NOTHING in common. My husband and I only have one sibling and neither of them will be having kids soon so no close cousins for our kids to play with so having siblings close in age is going to be perfect. But I also feel crazy at times. It’s going to be an adventure! Good luck!
My brother and I are 3 years apart. I got lucky and had twins on my first pregnancy so having two who just turned 1 is amazing, a little bit of work but totally worth it! Yes, I too think buying stock in wipes and diapers is not a bad idea ;o)
you aren’t crazy at all, my mom had her first 4 children in 6 years, and went on to have a total of 8 children in 18 years. Myself, I am only 26, but we are due with #4 in October and I wouldn’t have it any other way! My oldest just turned 5, and there was 14months then our son, then 26 months and. then our 2nd daughter…she will be 20months when our 2nd son. is. born
I love every Insane moment of it! 
you will never regret it! your kids will be friends forever. it may be hard the first few years, but it is much easier for them to all be in the same “zone” than to have a straggler in diapers when the other siblings are riding rides at Disneyland.
Not crazy at all. Every family is different and what every couple can handle is different. I firmly believe that the choice of how many kids to have and when to have them is between couples. My DH and I decided to have our first 2 children a year apart. We started trying when DD was 2 mths old. We where delighted to find out we where 6wks pregnant at my DD 4mth check up. This pregnancy has had complications and my 1st didn’t. OB says its b/c my body didn’t have a chance to re-coop from 1st pregnancy. This time I developed PE & was on BR for 3wks & now HBR 1wk. I had SVT episode while in hospital so now we are delivering @ 37wks instead of 38wks. Tomorrow we start the induction. If all goes well DS won’t need to spend time in NICU. My DD is 11mths old & DS will be newborn. Some people say we’re crazy but we say we’ve been blessed. I shared my story w/ you so you’d be prepared for complications if they come. Given your advanced maternal age you are already at increased risk for PE, & having 2 so close together also puts you at higher risk. So be prepared. I’m 27 & I got PE. Good luck.
I loved reading your story. I was 34 when I had my first one, my second arrived 13 mos later, my third 15 months after that. I have three beautiful little boys and I couldn’t be happier. Yes, I did this on purpose. Yes, it was hard at times. There were days when all I did was walk the floor holding one or more of them. I got nothing done around the house. My oldest was teething and my second one had colic. I would do it again in a heartbeat. My friends and family thought I was crazy for having three that close together but my boys are inseparable…wonderful together. They won’t always need me as much as they do right now. If I had a dime for every time someone looked at me and said, “My! You’ve got your hands full.” I’d be a wealthy woman. It sounds like you’ve got your plan. Don’t worry about what anyone else thinks. It’s your life. We’re trying for our 4th and maybe I’ll get my little girl this time. This will be our last child. I’ve always thought 4 was the perfect size family, too. Good luck!
I now wish I did have two under two so I could get the sleepless nights and nappies out of the way and continue studying. My daughter is now 20months and we have been trying to concieve for the last two months so fingers crossed it happens soon!
Definitely not crazy. We have a 17 month old, a 1 month old, and are ttc #3.
I just told my husband yesterday that as soon as the doctor gives us the OK, we are TTC again…my son is four weeks old. Thankfully he agrees!
I don’t think you’re crazy at all…however I find toddlers very much harder to deal with than newish babies that don’t really ‘do’ much. And that’s what you may have; a toddler and a newborn! It’s something I’ve also let myself in for it, albeit a happy surprise. So good luck but I think I’ll need plenty of it too!
I’m glad I’m not the only one who wants kids that aren’t far apart. My baby girl isn’t even four months old yet and we just found pout we are expecting again. We are scared but very excited at the same time. I have always wanted to have at least 4 kids and have had this theory of having them while im young so that me and my husband will be able to have our time together after the kids are grown and still be young enough to do fun things.