Comments on: Gender Selection — People Are Paying Thousands to Conceive a Girl

By: Happy mama

Happy mama — Tue, 13 Nov 2012 22:41:17 +0000

This article is really stupid. The reason it’s dumb is because instead of talking about the real use of PGD it describes an outlier. Almost all people who are forced to use PGD aren’t doing so to have a baby of the sex they want, they are using it to help prevent having a baby with a genetic mutation. Why doesn’t this article discuss the actual uses of PGD? Because the author is trying to make a helpful procedure into an interesting story. Boo to the Bump for even publishing it!

By: Sylvia

Sylvia — Wed, 26 Sep 2012 20:15:38 +0000

I am very fortunate to be expecting a girl right now. If it was a boy I would love him very much but it was a daughter that me and my husband wanted. Reading your post I thought of at least one reason I could give you why a woman would be so determined to have a boy. Since this is an anonymous post and you will never know who I am, I can tell you that I’ve been abused sexually by two men with the cheering on a group of other males, and I came to abhor the 50 % of the world. I never thought I would fall in love, get married and plan a family. My husband is the only person that knows what happened in my past and realises why I keep away from men and prefer to stay home and watch tv than go clubbing. He convinced me to how good a person he is and he said he knows a few men I could trust but he admits that men are usually sex obsessed and prone to abusing women. In my heart I knew that if I had a son I would do EVERYTHING in my power to teach him to respect girls and women, to treat them as equals and to NEVER try and impose anything on them. When my husband and I learned that we are having a girl , we both started crying from happiness. We both can’t wait for her to be born in this world and I will make sure to make her aware of how focused on sex men are. Hopefully it will save her from what I had to go through.

By: Monique

Monique — Wed, 26 Sep 2012 20:05:32 +0000

I know plenty of people who wanted and still want a girl. A much smaller number of my family and aquaintances wanted/want a boy. Perhaps because the boys keep on trashing their own toys and running around like maniacs screaming? Yes I know some girls are like that too. But even though when I was a girl I hated dolls and loved playing with cars, I never crashed them into each other or want to play fist fights with my sister or cousins. My cousin hoped for a girl, unfortunately it was not meant to be. Me and my husband were praying for a girl and a prayer has been answered! In three and a half month we will welcome a girl into this world. We already have a boy in the house and we were apprehensive of having another one. He is a very good boy, always huggable and lovable but he also can’t control himself when it comes to the amount of noise and the amount of money we have to spend on new toys. We are hoping to have one boy and two girls in the house, we shall see if next time we are as lucky as this time. And we are also hoping that our boy will learn to be a big brother and stop hating girls verbally and physically.

By: Heather

Heather — Wed, 26 Sep 2012 13:42:39 +0000

So the fertilized eggs that turn out to not be girls obviously…do the parents still give birth to those babies? I mean it seems like a waste of money to do something you could have done naturally,and if you are having the babies that don’t end up as girls, you are going to end up with 5 boys and then a girl, you might as well go the natural way. And by asking about whether they keep the boys, I am not saying I approve of termination of pregnancy…I was just wondering what happens since these women are so hell bent on getting a girl…

By: VISITOR3

VISITOR3 — Wed, 26 Sep 2012 00:51:33 +0000

hugs!!!

By: Isabel

Isabel — Tue, 25 Sep 2012 20:35:30 +0000

Dont know how to raise a boy? Just let the kid grow up and develop their own personality. You don’t HAVE to be into EVERYTHING that they’re into. Just love and support them in the path they choose. That’s parenting. Who expects their children to be 100% exactly like them and liking the same things they like? Thats just selfish.

By: mn

mn — Tue, 25 Sep 2012 20:24:17 +0000

Or you could just really stress yourself out. I read somewhere that you’re more likely to have a girl if either you or your husband (I can’t remember which, but probably husband since it’s his sperm who determine gender) is stressed out at the time of conception. I’m constantly stressed out, and I had a girl, which must make it true (ha). Should be easy- just think of how much all those hairbows and outfits will cost (not to mention college), and the fact that she’ll want to date someday!

By: Mamaof5

Mamaof5 — Tue, 25 Sep 2012 18:24:24 +0000

Interesting story. We have four daughters and I just had our new baby- a boy! What a surprise! Both are blessings and there are great things to look forward to either way. Love what you’ve got!

By: Lisa

Lisa — Tue, 25 Sep 2012 17:01:58 +0000

my first child, 30 yrs ago is a boy, i was extremely happy with my baby boy and the next year i became pregnant again and thought i would have another boy, it was a girl. they are 30 and 28 now and i dont think i could choose which one i preferred as far as their sex goes. they are so different and both have been blessings. i have remarried and hubby wanted his own so we underwent invitro as i had my tubes tied 28 yrs ago. hubby wanted a boy and of course we had a girl. hubby has been in love with our baby girls since the moment the nurse put her in his arms. we 6 months later tried for a 2nd ivf baby and hubby has his boy. we love them equally and are now going for a 3rd ivf baby and neither of us care what sex the baby will be if we are fortunate enough to become pregnant again. hubby considered pgd with the ivf for our 2nd child but i felt it would lessen our chances undergoing another procedure on the few embryos we have. i have a sister in law that has 4 boys and would have loved to have had at least one daughter. i have a neice that has 3 boys and would also love to try for a girl but feels she is not healthy enough to endure a 4th pregnancy. i feel so blessed with my two older children and my two younger children. i also have a grandson and a grandaughter the same age as my two younger children and they are wonderful playmates.

By: Gia

Gia — Tue, 25 Sep 2012 16:46:14 +0000

It seems to me this article didn’t mention that after slicing and dicing the embryo, if it’s not the sex they want, what do they do? Is the mother forced to “go through with it” or do they destroy the embryo? I have a BIG problem with that when it was totally because of a gender preference. That’s no better than throwing away a baby girl after it’s born in some countries. I’m pretty sure there is a procedure for checking the SPERM first, before fertilization. This way you only use the X or Y, depending on the ones you want, to fertilize with. I’ve always wanted at least 1 girl. I had to do IVF for other reasons. I asked my doctor if we could “manipulate” the sperm to favor more heavily in getting girls and he said there were rules about doing it. Apparently you had to already have at least 1 of the other sex. These were my first kids so we wouldn’t have qualified, even though my husband had 3 boys from a previous marriage. My doctor said “just be happy with what you get considering you only have a 30% chance of conceiving”. And that is really what’s important. I ended up getting pregnant with triplets – 2 boys and 1 girl. I was ecstatic to at least have 1 girl. Unfortunately I miscarried the little girl at 18 weeks. The twin boys were delivered at 29 weeks. I have to just put my faith in God that it wasn’t meant to be. I believe my little girl is a guardian angel to my boys. If she would’ve stayed alive, who knows if my pre-eclampsia would have held off as long as it did. I might have lost all 3 or they would’ve been born even earlier and had other physical or mental issues. I thank God every day for my twin boys that they are totally healthy and I wouldn’t trade for anything in the world. I just pray God holds my little girl in his arms and she knows how much I love and miss her.