Comments on: How I Knew I Wanted to Quit My Job and Become a Stay-at-Home Mom

By: jmed21

jmed21 — Thu, 27 Dec 2012 18:06:16 +0000

I’m in a similar situation (sorta), I attained my Master’s degree in Architecture (a 7+ year venture) and swore I would never be a stay at home mom. I worked too hard to give up my career. Then I got pregnant earlier this year and it all changed, but I knew I would have to go back to work, financially. I’ve only been back a week and two days and it’s already so difficult. I can’t concentrate on anything work related because I just want to be with my baby. We probably could afford for just my fiance to support us but he’s less keen on the idea. We’ve been together for almost 12 years and have become accustom to a certain lifestyle, one I’m willing to give up but my fiance is more reluctant. We are also in the process of buying a house to get out of our rental. We have family watching our baby so he doesn’t see the urgency of cutting back to one income when we have people who love her watching her. That may be the case but nobody will care for and love our baby like I can. I guess I need to just make a plan to pay off debt (thank you school!) so I can stay home. It’s not that I don’t want to work, I’d just rather be at home and work while taking care of my baby. It’s nice to see your story that it can be done…I’m hopeful my own story will have the same outcome!

By: Christina

Christina — Tue, 18 Dec 2012 18:30:06 +0000

sadly for me it wasn’t really a choice. i went into our marriage with a 1 bedroom condo that i couldn’t sell. then the market got hit bad and i still have that mortgage today- plus we have rent for where we live now. could we have lived in that 1 bedroom condo till baby came? possibly, but it didn’t work out that way. long story short, i had (have) to work. it was never my intention- even with a degree- to work away from home when i had children. but it’s what has happened and it’s actually working out pretty good most days. i’m at a job that allows me to work early enough hours that gives me several hours every single day with my Lovie before bedtime. and she’s awesome with the routine we have. things are going so wonderfully well, if i were able to sell my condo today and not *have* to work, i may still keep the same routine with Lovie going to school every day.

By: Jayne Ellen

Jayne Ellen — Tue, 18 Dec 2012 01:59:00 +0000

Thank you ladies! I actually am going to keep working PRN, but it is really only to supplement our income at this time. I’m so thankful I have that option, because if we were in a dire place, I’d be able to pick up hours to help my family. However, I mainly will be picking up weekend hours when we don’t have to pay for daycare and it gives my husband his equally needed alone time to bond with our children.

By: Jayme Massman

Jayme Massman — Mon, 17 Dec 2012 22:48:25 +0000

Yay!!! That’s exciting for you and your family — best wishes!

By: Jaimi

Jaimi — Sun, 16 Dec 2012 19:43:23 +0000

I agree! It seems no matter whether a mom works or stays home that they are not 100% content with their choice. It’s unfortunate, but I am like you-totally content with being my child’s first teacher and having the flexibility of my schedule, among other perks.

By: Jaimi

Jaimi — Sun, 16 Dec 2012 19:41:10 +0000

Absolutely! Still working full-time, but in a more volunteer position. Great point!

By: Jaimi

Jaimi — Sun, 16 Dec 2012 19:40:11 +0000

Hi Cassie, I admire you for trying to live more modestly to attempt to be a SAHM. Good for you! I am a SAHM and a former teacher. On my website, I have some posts that are motivation for moms particularly those who stay home like me. Maybe some of the posts like http://www.thestay-at-home-momsurvivalguide.com/2011/09/why-is-grass-greener.html can help keep that desire going as you figure out how to step aside from your paying job for the work of a SAHM, or work more part time hours if you need to. I have activities posted as well that I created and use with my own children to help fill up the need for us to be our child’s teacher while we are home with them if they are not yet in school. There are many moms such as you who have gone from working to staying home and are both happy with it and also constantly seeking contentment. Many share on my Facebook page as well. I encourage you to check my site out and see if it will be of value to you. Best wishes as you navigate your options and whether you stay home or not, I wish you much success!

By: Cassie

Cassie — Sat, 15 Dec 2012 21:16:19 +0000

After my first child, I was going through a divorce and HAD to work so that I could support us. Now that I am remarried and expecting number two, and I am seriously considering being a SAHM or maybe getting a PRN position near home. We are house-hunting and as much as I would love to get a super-huge dream house, I’d rather find a small humble home so I can live my dream life. Any hints on making the switch are welcome and appreciated

By: Judy

Judy — Sat, 15 Dec 2012 20:36:31 +0000

I decided to stay home for a year when I was pregnant with our second child because I was barely holding on with my first and working. . .We had no idea how we would manage financially — it was scary. Here I am 15 years later….with an 18 year old and a 15 year old and it’s been tough but so worth it. Hang in there.

By: Bobbe

Bobbe — Fri, 14 Dec 2012 21:16:33 +0000

I feel the same way about wanting to be home with my child. I really love being the one teaching him and experiencing so many new things with him. And I never get tired of it either. I rarely hear other moms say they don’t get sick of being home and that they don’t need a daily break, but I know what you mean. I’m so glad I came across this article because, strangely enough, I feel like I’m in the minority among the other moms I know.