Comments on: Why I Waited 5 Years to Have My Second Child

By: jen

jen — Fri, 01 Mar 2013 19:37:29 +0000

My daughters are the same age difference and it works out great. Love it growing up I had 2 older brothers and I am closest to the brother that him and I are 5 years apart. My sister is 9 years younger and we are close.as well. I like the blog

By: cm

cm — Wed, 20 Feb 2013 01:14:21 +0000

Thanks for the great article…very timely for me. I am expecting baby #2 next week and he/she will be almost 4 years apart from my son. I have loved my time alone with son for so long and hope he develops a close relationship with his new sibling. The fact that I will have time alone with the second while my son is in preschool makes me feel better about being able to give #2 some attention.

My husband has 2 siblings, one 8 years younger than him and the other is 17 years younger. Even with the wide age gap, they are extremely close and get along insanely well. On the other hand, I know others that have three kids closely spaced (about 18 months), and they don’t get along well at all. I think personality of each child can make a difference as well, no matter the age gap. Like others have said, do what works best for your family since there is no magical number on what works.

By: Jess

Jess — Tue, 19 Feb 2013 23:07:31 +0000

Sorry typing on my phone. What I was saying is I want to have all my life by the time I hit 35-36. My husband and I waited 7 years before we decided to have kids and that’s what worked for us.

My advice do what works for you. Take advice and really consider if it fits what you want your final outcome to.be.

By: Jess

Jess — Tue, 19 Feb 2013 23:03:50 +0000

I’m glad this strategy worked for some of you, but as the oldest of 3 waiting too long can also blow up in your face. I’m 7 years older than my next sibling and he and I hated each other until he was in his 20s. The youngest is 15.5 years younger than me and he is more my son than brother. It’s awful going to the grocery store and people giving you looks because they assumed he was my son. So none of us have had a typical sibling relationship. Middle brother couldn’t stand baby brother until he hit high school. It’s nice to be able to kids some individual time, but sometimes if you give them too much it could be harmful for their relationships as well.

Now I understand somepeople have reasons for doing this. I’m not saying your all horrible parents forwaiting please don’t misunderstand. I’m just giving you this scenario from the other perspective. Wehad our first and are tentatively planning the second one for next year do dd should be about 2. I feel this is slightly insane too, but I want to beable l

By: Aasha

Aasha — Tue, 19 Feb 2013 18:48:11 +0000

I had my oldest before i got married so my girls are almost 9 yrs apart (9 and 6 months) my oldest is really helpful with the baby. If we have another baby it wont be until my youngest is at least 4, just bc i think each child deserves to be able to really be the baby. By then they feel like a big kid so they are not as jealous that the baby is getting attention. They understand that the baby needs you bc he/she cant do for themselves

By: martinkadelux

martinkadelux — Fri, 08 Feb 2013 04:57:08 +0000

My sister and I are 7 years apart, my brothers are then 8 years younger than me. We are not BFFs as in call you every day, but we love each other and have a parental bond. We always take care of each other and when we see each other (we all live in different states), it is magic to catch up.
I love the idea of spacing children- and having a big brother who is more experienced in the world, Mimi is a lucky lady

By: Joanna {Baby Gators Den}

Joanna {Baby Gators Den} — Fri, 08 Feb 2013 04:54:30 +0000

This is a great post Jessica! My kids are 22 months apart and at the time, I felt like that was a huge difference! Now that they are both toddlers, I see that it is insanely close and there would have been some big pluses to spacing them further apart!

By: tqote

tqote — Fri, 08 Feb 2013 03:55:22 +0000

My sis and I are 4.5 years apart and while we are good friends now, we didn’t always get along. My son and daughter are 3 years 3 months apart and it’s pretty much the same thing. Some love, some hate, some in between.

By: Kameron

Kameron — Fri, 08 Feb 2013 02:35:25 +0000

My kids are ~2.5 years apart. I wanted to have them close together so I wasn’t starting all over again when baby number 2 came. I feel like it was the right choice for our family, but my best friend, whose son was born a week after min, just had her daughter a month ago. She loves the fact that he can help and that he is independent.

By: candice

candice — Fri, 08 Feb 2013 00:18:46 +0000

We had no plan, but seems like G and her sister will be about 2.5 years apart. I am an only child and my hubby is the middle of three boys. So, his oldest bro and youngest bro are 6 years apart. Is that really any different? I don’t think so.