The Biggest Daddy ‘Secret’ Ever Will Make All Moms Proud of Their Partners!

Photo: Veer / The Bump
Photo: Veer / The Bump

After 50 years of life and 7 babies, I now feel confident that I know what I need to do to help my wife when the baby is crying in the middle of the night.  It’s a big daddy secret, but I’m willing to share.

This daddy secret is one that will help when your baby or toddler cries in the middle of the night. Maybe he’s hungry, needs a diaper change, a hug, a glass of water, or a quick “monster check.” No matter the case, remember my big daddy secret for success (because you’re going to need it!).

So, dads, when your crying baby awakes you in the middle of the night while you’re cocooned so comfortably and tucked in warm blankets, floating on a soft bed with a comfortable pillow perfectly cradling your head, what do you do?

Most new parents will slowly – very slowly — look over at the other to see if baby has awoken them, too. This is the moment of truth, or rather, the moment of unconditional love. It is not a scorecard;  not the time to “fake out” your spouse and pretend to stay asleep asleep. It is time to be the daddy that you are — the daddy you imagined you’d be while waiting for baby for 9 months.  I am sure you have heard the phrase, “any man can be a father, but it takes someone special to be a daddy”.  Well, now’s your chance.

So, here’s my big daddy secret, (maybe even guaranteed to improve the sanctity of your marriage and sex life!): Act without hesitation. Don’t even take a moment to consider your options. Just. Do. By acting on impulse, say hellooooo to free brownie points (your wife will love it!).

Dad, this is your moment. Do not lay in bed moaning and groaning, (and whatever you do, DO NOT! pretend to sleep). Get out of bed before your wife does and go get the baby! It’ll make all the difference in the world, trust me.

I can only tell you this from experience.  It took me until baby number seven to truly learn the benefits of waking in the middle of the night and bounding to the rescue of my kids. And I’ve been reaping the benefits ever since!

Moms, whats one thing your partner does to help you out?

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