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		<title>Gwyneth Paltrow Reveals the Heartbreaking Details of Her Scary Miscarriage</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 18 Mar 2013 16:31:49 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Kylie McConville</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Over the weekend, Gwyneth Paltrow dropped some surprising (and heartbreaking) news. The mama of Apple, 8, and Moses, 6, revealed to Mail on Sunday&#8217;s You magazine that her third pregnancy &#8212; sadly &#8212; resulted in a miscarriage that nearly killed her. Despite the fact that she came forward and shared her story, Goop isn&#8217;t admitting...<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=blog.thebump.com&#038;blog=33418031&#038;post=13850&#038;subd=xothebump&#038;ref=&#038;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
				<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p style="text-align:center"><img src="http://xothebump.files.wordpress.com/2013/03/679qe9wp.jpg?w=328" /></p><p>Over the weekend, <strong>Gwyneth Paltrow </strong>dropped some surprising (and heartbreaking) news.</p>
<p>The mama of Apple, 8, and Moses, 6, revealed to <em>Mail on Sunday&#8217;s You</em> magazine that her third pregnancy &#8212; sadly &#8212; resulted in a miscarriage that nearly killed her. Despite the fact that she came forward and shared her story, Goop isn&#8217;t admitting the <strong>details </strong>on exactly <em>what</em> happened or exactly <em>how</em> her pregnancy resulted in a devastating health scare.</p>
<p>She did <a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-2294483/Gwyneth-Paltrow-speaks-devastating-miscarriage-longs-child.html" target="_blank">tell</a> the mag, &#8220;I had a really bad experience when I was pregnant with my third. It didn’t work out and I nearly died. So I am like, ‘Are we good here, or should we go back and try again?&#8217;&#8221;</p>
<p>But still, the star hasn&#8217;t stopped thinking about expanding her beautiful brood &#8212; and neither have her two kids! She admitted, &#8220;My children ask me to have a baby all the time. And you never know, I could squeeze one more in. I am missing my third. I’m thinking about it.&#8221; Regardless of what the future has in store for the Paltrow-Martin family, one thing is for sure: when it comes to husband, Gwyneth insists she got the cream of the crop in husband (and Coldplay frontman!) <strong>Chris Martin.</strong> &#8220;Regardless of what happens in our marriage, I chose the best father,&#8221; adding that her husband is &#8220;so good to the children and to know that you had kids with such a good man is a real weight off you. We are committed co-parents, we make all the decisions together and lean on each other for support.&#8221;</p>
<p>So who knows if the successful parents will add another to the mix. Nearly a year ago, the Hollywood mama admitted that she&#8217;d &#8220;love to&#8221; have another baby, but also said she didn&#8217;t know if she could &#8220;go back to diapers and things like that.&#8221;</p>
<p>&#8220;I&#8217;m so past that,&#8221; she said, &#8220;I think I may have missed the window. I think maybe when Moses was three I could have done it&#8230; but now he&#8217;s six and such a guy, I feel like I&#8217;m out of the baby phase.&#8221;</p>
<p>She did leave it on the table, though, saying, &#8220;If it happens, it happens.&#8221; And she&#8217;s 100 percent right! If it happens for her, it happens, and if it doesn&#8217;t, she&#8217;s got two incredible kids and an incredible husband, to boot!<span style="font-size:1.2em;"><br />
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<p><strong>Did you struggle to conceive? Share your story with us below.</strong></p>
<p><strong>Plus, more from The Bump:</strong></p>
<p><a href="http://blog.thebump.com/2013/01/31/celebrity-miscarriages/" target="_blank">9 Celebrities Who&#8217;ve Opened Up About Their Miscarriages</a></p>
<p><a href="http://pregnant.thebump.com/pregnancy/miscarriage-and-loss/articles/how-to-cope-after-having-a-miscarriage.aspx" target="_blank">How to Cope After Having a Miscarriage</a></p>
<p><a href="http://pregnant.thebump.com/pregnancy/miscarriage-and-loss/qa/comforting-a-loved-one-whos-had-a-miscarriage.aspx" target="_blank">How to Comfort a Loved One Experiencing a Miscarriage</a></p>
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		<title>When to Share the News You&#8217;re Pregnant</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 04 Dec 2012 20:33:20 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Shannon Guyton</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[As excited as I was to hear about the royal baby on the way yesterday (I’ll admit it, I squealed), I couldn’t help but wonder how Kate and Will were feeling about letting the world in on their intimate news. They may have had to share the news about their baby on the way a...<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=blog.thebump.com&#038;blog=33418031&#038;post=9501&#038;subd=xothebump&#038;ref=&#038;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
				<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p style="text-align:center"><img src="http://xothebump.files.wordpress.com/2012/12/kate-middleton-dec-12-328.jpg?w=328" /></p><p>As excited as I was to hear about the royal baby on the way yesterday (I’ll admit it, I squealed), I couldn’t help but wonder how Kate and Will were feeling about letting the world in on their intimate <a href="http://blog.thebump.com/2012/12/03/kate-middleton-pregnant-severe-morning-sickness/">news.</a> They may have had to share the news about their baby on the way a little earlier than they might have liked, due to Kate’s hospitalization with <a href="http://blog.thebump.com/2012/12/03/kate-middleton-has-hyperemesis-gravidarum-about-the-scary-condition/">hyperemesis gravidarum</a>.</p>
<p>In my first pregnancy, I had all the naïve faith in the world that unprotected sex = pregnancy = you have a baby. I excitedly shared my pregnancy news with my parents, in-laws and friends at 6 weeks. Everyone was over the moon for their first grandchild! But, I was about to learn a big lesson: sometimes things don’t go the way you dream. Sometimes <a href="http://blog.thebump.com/2012/04/09/welcome-to-the-grumpy-pregnancy-club/">pregnancy sucks</a>, sometimes your <a href="http://pregnant.thebump.com/new-mom-new-dad/baby-symptoms-conditions/articles/excessive-crying-baby.aspx">baby cries all day</a> and you want to check yourself into an <span style="text-decoration:line-through;">asylum</span> hotel, and sometimes pregnancy doesn’t last at all. Literally, the day after I shared the news, I ended up <a href="http://pregnant.thebump.com/pregnancy/miscarriage-and-loss/articles/how-to-cope-after-having-a-miscarriage.aspx">miscarrying</a>. Not only was that heartbreaking and difficult to bear, but I had to also go “un-tell” all of my loved ones. It felt like I had played a cruel joke on everyone &#8212; I had given them an amazing gift and then I had to take it away and feel their pain over the baby’s loss as well my own.</p>
<p>A tight-lipped year later, and on my third pregnancy, I waited the full first trimester before <a href="http://pregnant.thebump.com/pregnancy/first-trimester/articles/fun-ways-to-announce-your-pregnancy.aspx">announcing the baby</a>. I&#8217;m not saying everyone needs to wait that long &#8212; but for me, it was easier to wade through those first uncertain weeks with as much caution tape surrounding my hopeful heart as I needed, without having to explain to anyone why I wasn’t jumping for joy quite yet.</p>
<p>So when anyone announces their pregnancy before their <a href="http://pregnant.thebump.com/pregnancy/first-trimester.aspx">first trimester</a> is up, even though I know statistically it will probably be fine &#8212; my joy at the news is always is tinged with an internal pang and hope that everything is going to be okay.</p>
<p><b>When did you share the news you were pregnant?</b></p>
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		<title>Kelsey and Kayte Grammer Welcome a Baby Girl!</title>
		<link>http://blog.thebump.com/2012/07/16/kelsey-and-kayte-grammer-welcome-a-baby-girl/</link>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 16 Jul 2012 17:15:04 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Lindsay Barton</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Kelsey Grammer and his wife Kayte are now the parents of a baby girl! The newest member of the Grammer family was born Friday in Los Angeles and weighed in at six pounds, two ounces. Faith Evangeline Elisa Grammer is Kelsey’s fifth child and Kayte’s first. “We are thrilled,” the couple told People. “Mother and...<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=blog.thebump.com&#038;blog=33418031&#038;post=3430&#038;subd=xothebump&#038;ref=&#038;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
				<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p style="text-align:center"><img src="http://xothebump.files.wordpress.com/2012/07/kelsey-grammer-14.gif?w=650" /></p><p>Kelsey Grammer and his wife Kayte are now the parents of a baby girl! The newest member of the Grammer family was born Friday in Los Angeles and weighed in at six pounds, two ounces. Faith Evangeline Elisa Grammer is Kelsey’s fifth child and Kayte’s first.</p>
<p>“We are thrilled,” the couple told <em>People</em>. “Mother and child are in excellent health.”</p>
<p>The birth of Faith shadowed somber news from the family. Kayte was expecting twins, but miscarried her baby boy earlier in the pregnancy. The couple previously miscarried in 2010.</p>
<p>“A glorious birth with a lingering sadness is ours today. We choose to celebrate the life that has been given us. We proudly introduce our Faith to the world today looking forward to the days ahead and children yet to come.”</p>
<p>Congratulations to the proud parents!</p>
<p><strong>Plus, more from The Bump:</strong></p>
<p><a href="http://pregnant.thebump.com/pregnancy/miscarriage-and-loss/articles/how-to-cope-after-having-a-miscarriage.aspx">How to Cope After Having a Miscarriage</a></p>
<p><a href="http://pregnant.thebump.com/pregnancy/celebrity-news/slideshows/celebrity-babies.aspx">Celebrity Babies</a></p>
<p><a href="http://pregnant.thebump.com/new-mom-new-dad/newborn-basics/articles/photo-birth-announcements.aspx">Pretty Birth Announcements</a></p>
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		<title>Bethenny Frankel Opens Up About Miscarriage</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 19 Jun 2012 15:34:59 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Elena Donovan Mauer</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Real Housewife turned talk show host Bethenny Frankel has been opening up about her recent miscarriage and encouraging other women to do the same. On her show today, Bethenny, the host talked about miscarrying at eight weeks pregnant and what a heartbreaking experience it was. &#8220;I&#8217;ve honestly had women that I&#8217;ve been friends with in...<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=blog.thebump.com&#038;blog=33418031&#038;post=2378&#038;subd=xothebump&#038;ref=&#038;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
				<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p style="text-align:center"><img src="http://xothebump.files.wordpress.com/2012/06/bethenny2.gif?w=650" /></p><p>Real Housewife turned talk show host Bethenny Frankel has been opening up about her recent miscarriage and encouraging other women to do the same. On her show today, <a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.bethennytv.com/"><em>Bethenny</em></a>, the host talked about miscarrying at eight weeks pregnant and what a heartbreaking experience it was.</p>
<p>&#8220;I&#8217;ve honestly had women that I&#8217;ve been friends with in the past [tell me] they had a miscarriage,&#8221; she explains. &#8220;And I kind of didn&#8217;t really understand, and I&#8217;d say, &#8216;I&#8217;m so sorry that&#8217;s terrible.&#8217; But not until you really go through it, do you understand what it means. In your head, it&#8217;s a person that could never be. You blame yourself as a woman.&#8221;</p>
<p>Bethenny said she had envisioned her daughter Bryn having a little sister to run around with, and that made it even more difficult.</p>
<p>Watch more of Bethenny&#8217;s frank discussion about miscarriage.</p>
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<p><strong>Plus, more from The Bump:</strong></p>
<p><a href="http://pregnant.thebump.com/pregnancy/miscarriage-and-loss/articles/how-to-cope-after-having-a-miscarriage.aspx">How to Cope After Having a Miscarriage</a></p>
<p><a href="http://pregnant.thebump.com/pregnancy/miscarriage-and-loss/articles/books-to-read-after-a-miscarriage.aspx">Books to Read After Miscarriage</a></p>
<p><a href="http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/4236699/ShowForum.aspx">Talk with other women who&#8217;ve been through miscarriage or loss</a></p>
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		<title>How I Did Everything Right – And Still Had Trouble Getting Pregnant</title>
		<link>http://blog.thebump.com/2012/06/18/how-i-did-everything-right-and-still-had-trouble-getting-pregnant/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 19 Jun 2012 03:15:58 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Shannon Guyton</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[My husband and I did everything &#8220;right&#8221;. We got married, we traveled, we saved money, we bought a house, and after five years of being married, we were ready to be parents on paper and in our hearts. We excitedly stopped using protection and assumed that would be enough to get pregnant and have a...<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=blog.thebump.com&#038;blog=33418031&#038;post=2370&#038;subd=xothebump&#038;ref=&#038;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
				<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p style="text-align:center"><img src="http://xothebump.files.wordpress.com/2012/06/couple-looking-out-window-cropped-getty_83975278-2.jpg?w=650" /></p><p>My husband and I did everything &#8220;right&#8221;. We got married, we traveled, we saved money, we bought a house, and after five years of being married, we were <a href="http://pregnant.thebump.com/getting-pregnant/fertility-ovulation/qa/are-we-ready-to-have-a-baby.aspx">ready to be parents</a> on paper and in our hearts. We excitedly stopped using protection and assumed that would be enough to get pregnant and have a baby. Simple, right? Not so much. We did conceive reasonably fast, but I ended up miscarrying in the shower just after telling my parents I was pregnant. I dramatically cried out in shock &#8211; I had no idea that this was even possible (and I thought I was an educated 30 year old woman!)</p>
<p>My whole world crumbled and I felt totally alone, completely shouldering the responsibility for the loss and of taking away the dream of a child from everyone: my husband, the would-be first time grandparents. But as time is known to do, slowly, gently, I got my courage back. And like a bad re-run I got pregnant and miscarried again. When I confided in friends, I’d hear well-meaning things like “oh, it must not have been meant to be” (I’m not meant to be a mother?!), “chin up, you can try again” (yah, in two months when I finally ovulate again!), and the worst “well, at least you know you can get pregnant”. (Really? &#8216;Cuz either way I&#8217;m not having a baby.) I couldn’t get over how out of control I felt in the process. I was doing everything right and it still wasn’t working. What was wrong with me?</p>
<p>Almost a year of long, abnormal cycles followed. Hundreds of <a href="http://pregnant.thebump.com/getting-pregnant/fertility-ovulation/qa/what-is-basal-body-temperature.aspx">basal temperatures</a> recorded and <a href="http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/blogs/ttc/archive/2008/02/04/q-checking-cervical-mucus.aspx?r=0">cervical mucus</a> examinations later and finally I got pregnant a third time. But there were no celebratory cheers or calls made. The joy of getting pregnant was gone for me by then. How could I know it would last? I was more nervous and worried during that pregnancy than any other (to the point of heart palpitations so bad I needed a heart monitor), and I stressed out about being stressed out. But just to spite the friends that said “I’m sure when you stop stressing about it, it’ll happen”, this was the pregnancy that lasted. My son is 9 years old now and has defied “average” every step of the way.</p>
<p><strong>Plus more from The Bump</strong></p>
<p><a href="http://pregnant.thebump.com/pregnancy/miscarriage-and-loss/articles/how-to-cope-after-having-a-miscarriage.aspx">How to Cope with Miscarriage</a></p>
<p><a href="http://pregnant.thebump.com/pregnancy/miscarriage-and-loss/qa/emotions-after-a-miscarriage.aspx">Emotions After a Miscarriage</a></p>
<p><a href="http://pregnant.thebump.com/pregnancy/miscarriage-and-loss/qa/miscarriage-risks.aspx">Why Do Miscarriages Happen?</a></p>
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		<title>Should Women Talk About Their Miscarriages?</title>
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		<dc:creator>Sarah Yang</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[An award-winning piece sculpture series explores the topic of miscarriage &#8212; something that a lot of women keep secret or hidden. The International Museum of Women held a contest online where women could vote for their favorite piece of art revolving around the theme of motherhood. The winning piece, “Breakdown in the Closet” was a...<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=blog.thebump.com&#038;blog=33418031&#038;post=353&#038;subd=xothebump&#038;ref=&#038;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
				<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p style="text-align:center"><img src="http://xothebump.files.wordpress.com/2012/04/miscarriageart_652.jpg?w=650" /></p><p>An award-winning piece sculpture series explores the topic of miscarriage &#8212; something that a lot of women keep secret or hidden. The International Museum of Women held a contest online where women could vote for their favorite piece of art revolving around the theme of motherhood. The winning piece, <a rel="nofollow" href="http://mama.imow.org/yourvoices/breakdown-closet">“Breakdown in the Closet”</a> was a series on the subject of miscarriage created by Pakistani-American artist Humaira Abid. According to the <a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/clare-winterton/miscarriage-humaira-abid_b_1397874.html?ncid=edlinkusaolp00000003#s835185"><em>Huffington Post</em></a>, finalists were selected from 600 submissions around the world and over a thousand women voted for the piece, many contacted the Museum to voice their praise for bringing a meaningful issue into the spotlight.</p>
<p>The wooden sculpture series depicts a family’s wardrobe with the parents’ clothes (which are brown) hanging on a rack and a baby’s outfit on the floor and stained red to represent loss. The artist said, “I am from a country and society where showing your emotions and expressing your opinion is not welcomed – especially if you are a woman. Many experiences and roles of women are not properly appreciated. They are simply considered to be their duty or part of life.” Humaira hopes that her artwork will raise this issue and show that miscarriages happen to a lot of women and these women don’t have to go through the pain alone.</p>
<p>We totally agree with Humaira&#8217;s point of view. Women do need support and a place to talk about their emotions. If you had a miscarriage and are looking for a safe place to get support, try visiting to our <a href="http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/4236699/ShowForum.aspx">community boards</a>.</p>
<p><strong>What do you think of this piece of art? Do you believe miscarriage is a “taboo” subject?</strong></p>
<p><strong>Plus, more from The Bump:</strong></p>
<p><a href="http://pregnant.thebump.com/pregnancy/miscarriage-and-loss/articles/books-to-read-after-a-miscarriage.aspx">Books to Read After a Miscarriage</a></p>
<p><a href="http://pregnant.thebump.com/pregnancy/miscarriage-and-loss/qa/emotions-after-a-miscarriage.aspx">Emotions After a Miscarriage</a></p>
<p><a href="http://pregnant.thebump.com/pregnancy/miscarriage-and-loss/qa/miscarriage-warning-signs.aspx">Miscarriage Warning Signs</a></p>
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